I can’t say Valentine’s Day is a day that I’m especially fond of nor is it a day that necessarily excites me. Perhaps it’s because I don’t have a special man to spend the day with or perhaps it’s because I feel that I don’t need a day like tomorrow to show my love towards the ones that mean the most to me.
It’s a day that is usually full of kind gestures, expensive gifts and possibly thoughtful moments. However why does it take a day like tomorrow to force people to do loving things for the ones we care about? We should be treating our loved ones kindly, lovingly, and Godlike everyday and not just this one day.
It’s unfortunate but there is so much emphasis put onto this one day not to mention the amount of money that is spent on this day alone but our kind gestures vanish a week or two later. On a day to day basis it’s important to show love by holding our tongue when we’re upset or aggravated, it’s cooking dinner or taking out the trash without being asked. It’s not raining on your loved ones parade, it’s not keeping a running tally of all the things your significant other has done wrong, it’s not taking our frustrations out on the ones that are most patient with us, it’s not belittling our family or instilling fear into them, it’s not accusing others of actions that they haven’t done, it’s not disrespecting your partner nor is it about living selfishly so that your loved ones always have to accommodate you and your needs.
Love is more than fancy valentines, candy, flowers, jewelry, dinner, etc. It’s how we treat others when there is no special day.
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away.
1 Corinthians 13:4-8
Love is a daily gesture that includes Godlike behavior and kindness. One day that is full of love means nothing but the daily behavior is what speaks volumes. If we treated the ones we care about the most with the kindness, love, thoughtfulness, consideration and selflessness there would be less emphasis on this one day and more on our daily life. Perhaps there would be more couples and families that are happy and marriages that last if our focus was less on materialistic items and more on the kindness of others.
Like the saying goes, Valentine’s Day is more of a day that was created by the merchants than for the true meaning of the day.
Let’s remove some of the materialism from this day and bring back the real meaning for the day. Show love and kindness year round, it takes a little more effort but the gift is much more meaningful.